The past few days, my timeline has been filled with discussion on self-love. How it should & shouldn’t look, what it requires & doesn’t require, who’s definition is wrong & who’s definition is right.
The main argument that stuck out to me (really frustration) was that community is needed when you’re reprogramming how you perceive your value or worth. That self love isn’t something found in solitude and craving community, be it platonic or romantic, doesn’t mean you lack self love.
Overall, many hate the perceived isolation that is expected to come with loving yourself.
I hear both sides.
I hear the side that urges others to make sure they can be happy alone. That how you perceive your self is most important. To always believe that you can never alone as long as you have yourself.
I hear the side that places importance on community & support. That knows there’s healing that can and should be done through platonic and/or romantic relationships. That doesn’t view the desire for companionship as a lack of self-love but as a normal, human response.
In the recording below, I talk about how both sides are right in this conversation.
9 months into my intentional journey towards self-acceptance, I know one thing to be true, at least for me:
“Community starts with self.”
Shahem; @shaOVERIT on Twitter
Hear my full take on self-love and what this journey means to me below:
